The reality of life is that we are unique as people, our decisions will always be our own and what is a revelation to me, might not be to you. We have many faces, many moods, many different parts and facets. Something I have been struggling with lately is the idea that we are so multifaceted as to be unable to be captured by any one thing. The reality is that as we look at each other we are basically incapable of seeing all of this in each other, especially not all at once. To truly see someone else takes time it takes being able to witness who they are as an individual and to hold space for them. It takes the presence of mind to be able to step back and remove yourself from the situation, rather than seeing them as somehow connected to you, similar to a friend, or remembering the times you shared previously, or even considering their experiences to just be a different version of yours. I think this type of seeing others can be a constant struggle. We want to witness them, but it takes us to step outside ourselves in a way that might not be comfortable.
This is something that I struggle with in particular, and I am starting to see this more and more in how I interact with others and the thoughts that run through my head. Typically I have witnessed others in relation to me, I have evaluated and contemplated and dissected their lives thinking I knew better. Even typing these words makes me feel a tad nervous, but this is true. I like to look at the lives of others and learn from them, but the thing that I do not take into account is that my mistakes are at times mine alone. Looking and learning from others can be helpful, but often I am using it to boost my morale rather than impart any lesson. I am lately taking the time to hold space for others, not to try to compare or contrast but to accept that this is the experience of that person with all that entails and to not insert myself, but rather to just be there and see them living their life and support them as I can, but not thinking I know what is best, because in reality I don't.
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